Are you living as an adult baby hanging onto this one childish attribute that has no place in adulthood?
I’m sure we have all had someone say this to us once in our lives. Some probably more than others and most likely earlier in our lives.
I’m going to put some useful meaning to this to hopefully give you a better realization of self and guide you to a happier life.
When we are young we are being programmed. We as kids are watching the world around us and building paradigms that will last a lifetime without conscious effort to change. They are endless. Eggs are for breakfast. Steak is for a fancy dinner. No yelling. Doctors know everything. Getting good grades, a good job and a pension is the only route. Even if you have an abusive parent you don’t know any better and think this is normal.
Another important one that some people don’t ever shake is: someone else is responsible for my life.
Think about it. When we are kids we have control over almost nothing. Our parents decide what we do, what we wear, where we live, what we eat, where we go to school, when we can go out to play and so on. Our lives are controlled by our parents because we are young, naive, and our brains are simply not developed enough to set ourselves up for survival.
Then high school where teachers and principals set your schedule and rules. Then either more school or a job where your boss tells you what to do.
Due to this early programming as we grow up and start taking more control of our life we still subconsciously think someone else is responsible for everything. This leads us to think automatically that if something goes wrong or we have an undesirable outcome someone else is responsible.
The continued feeling of being controlled can lead to the feeling of unworthiness. And when we feel bad or unworthy it’s a natural response to look around and see who is to blame.
People naturally don’t take responsibility for themselves. Someone can spill hot coffee on themselves and turn around and sue the restaurant that sold them the coffee. Someone can break into a home to rob it, cut themselves on a nail in the window casing and sue the homeowner. This is people trying to escape the result of their own behavior and then demanding compensation.
A direct measure to a happier and more successful life is someone takes full responsibility for themselves.
It’s hard to imagine a great innovator, a great leader or anyone of great achievement you may think of wining, complaining or putting blame on someone rather than taking action when problems and difficulties occur.
The fact is wherever we are in life or whatever our circumstance, we have the ability to take action to better ourselves. Even if something happens outside of our control. Let say somebody has hit your car in the parking lot. This is not the result of your actions but it isyour responsibility to decide how you will respond.
The common denominator between all people is the desire to be happy. Being happy is essentially the lack of negative emotion. Some of the top negative emotions are resentment, jealously, hostility, or the all-encompassing anger. Anger is felt internally when we bottle something up or externally when we lash out toward other people.
Taking responsibility for yourself and your situation not only eliminates outward anger it empowers and puts the control stick pack in your hand.
Taking responsibility makes it impossible to feel negative emotion at the same time.
You have the power to improve your life however you desire if you decide to take action against negative circumstances and take responsibility for your desired direction.
Of you keep blaming others for what happens to you in life you will remain a mental child. Shake the childish habit that someone else is responsible for you and GROW UP!